At least he seems to have interests outside of his own career and the acquisition of new gadgets. I’ve read a lot of porn star blogs, and while many can indeed be mind-numbing: “worked on my chest today, had a blast shooting such-and-such a scene, etc.”, Carter’s is actually on the interesting side. Porn stars don’t corner the market on dysfunctional relationships people do! Could it be the result of a culture that demands that a romantic partner be the centre of one’s universe, which of course puts enormous pressure and strain on any relationship?Īnd crapito, lay off Kennedy Carter.
And what’s with all the angst about what constitutes a “healthy relationship”, and who is capable of having one? Speaking anecdotally, I’d say the majority of the people I know (friends, family, coworkers) who are in relationships are in ones that seem to me slightly less than healthy (but what do I know about what goes on behind closed doors?), and none of these people, to my knowledge, have ever done porn. Whenever Queerty, which does not bill itself as a hard-news blog, has a piece on porn stars, I’m always surprised by the level of vitriol that results. As I said, I’m not employed within the porn industry and while I’m not ashamed of him at all (considering my entire fanmily knows of his past), I can’t saw the same for my employers. Once you’ve seen that reality, it’s so much easier to see sex as just a job.Īnd the reason for my discretion is because of my own career. Sorry for destroying any illusions you have about porn, but it’s not hot or sexy to be on a porn set. Do I mind that he’s had sex with a bunch of other guys? Maybe I did in the beginning…but then I visited a porn site and I saw the reality of the industry.
Maybe I’m different than you as I can separate physical sex from love. And since we’ve been together nearly eight years, I think our relationship is quite successful. I’m sorry if my relationship doesn’t follow that same structure of the traditional relationship, but it works and I view it as entirely normal (as do a majority of the people in my life). Our love is as “normal” as any other gay couples, and has lasted a lot longer than most christopher di crapito: I don’t have to convince myself of anything. Along the way, he happened to find me, we fell in love and are still going strong. His time in the porn industry allowed him to travel and go to college. My partner left the industry a few years ago and now has a great job doing what he loves. I’ve met nearly everyone in the porn industry (including many of the couples on this list) and consider of number of them friends, but I’ve never had a thought of following him into that industry. Despite the stereotypes, neither he nor I are drug addicts (I’ve actually never touched a drug in my life, beyond alcohol) and we actually don’t play with others together or separately. I was able to accept what he did because I’m not a prude and am able to separate sex from love and intimacy.
You have to understand that porn is just a job. We met through mutual friends and as I don’t follow porn, I didn’t know who he was nor what he did when we first met, but I eventually came to terms with it. I’m not a porn star, but my partner of nearly eight years was. For those of you who have the opinion that it’s impossible for a porn star to have a “normal” love life, let me inform you that you are wrong.